Harmonious social living occurs when people get what they want without stopping others from getting what they want.

Control struggles between partners are often the ruin of a couple. But what is a battle for “control” in the context of a relationship? When I introduce this concept in couple’s therapy, there is ...

Why do people misidentify control as love? Here are three ways to answer that question. Not everything that looks like love to begin with actually turns out to be true. Sometimes, what feels intense ...

You’re having dinner with your boyfriend, and he’s reminding you for the third time to eat the salad, not the pasta. It’s not control vs. calories control. Why, then? Why must some people have to ...

In the early stages of a relationship, control rarely looks toxic. It looks like someone who checks in all the time. Someone who wants to know where you are, who you’re with, what you’re wearing. It ...